When Feelings Get the Best of You
Feelings can be ruthless, especially the ones that we foster with ourselves. I don’t know about you, but I’m my biggest critic there is out there. Once the negativity starts to roll, no fun things are on the horizon.
There are layers to people which you can’t see even when you spend a considerable amount of time with them. Even the ones who look like they have it all together can be struggling more than you can imagine. So, if there’s one thing you can do for the ones you care about, it is by talking to them. Ask them questions, but first and foremost, listen to what they have to say.
Many times, I have been the girl who, when people try talking to me, spin my own stories in my head instead of listening to what they really have to say. If they opened up to you, they must see a way that you can make their life better, or maybe they are just so insensitive to pass their own problems to you. You should figure that out to yourself. But do listen. It is the one sense that is vastly underused. People who are good listeners are far and few in between.
Start by naming three things that you are grateful for. I think we should all start by simply being here, being healthy, and being able to do the things in life that we love.
Once you have assessed yourself, you have probably realized that you’re one lucky gal! Now think, how does depression feel?
It is like an endless sleep with no intention to get yourself out of bed.
It is the feeling when you know that you want to go out for a run, to pull up your most comfortable running leggings, and to pair them with your cutest top. But you simply cannot move a muscle towards getting yourself ready.
It is a feeling of a caged mind that cannot swim to the surface.
Why am I saying this? Because there is a thin line between success and failure. You’re the only one who has access to your sincere feelings. Be honest with yourself and address it if you feel you’re spinning out of control. We get so caught in our own expectations that we can easily lose ground on the bigger picture, that is, life. Also, we can’t expect others to notice that we are not well. We all deal with our own insecurities, ideas, how to overcome them, and ideal scenarios of where we want to be and who we want to grow into.
Cleanse yourself from negativity and heaviness. Say goodbye to people who are not supporting your growth and are holding you back. Bring yourself to a state of peace, of poise and perfect harmony with your own body, mind, spirit, and heart. At the same time, be grateful for health, abundance, love, and happiness. I might sound insensitive, but from personal experience, this helped me move forward with my life.
Be honest with yourself and treat yourself to enough self-care time that it’ll also make you feel fulfilled when you are in the company of others. Remember that each person is accomplished in his/her own way. Be appreciative of who you are and be gentle with yourself.